You are the GREATEST, arenít you? You are focusing on you and
attracting all the wonderful things you deserve. You are
enlightened about your Divinity as God only creates the Divine.
Think thoughts of abundance and be amazed at what shows up for
you. Referring to Lesson #2 will help you as it is all about
clearing your thoughts to keep you focused on the positives.
This is your year. Itís all about you and being the person you
want to be. I have my own sign that people bought me that I put
on my refrigerator: Itís All About Me! You have achieved your
weight loss goals. Remember to think of it in terms that it has
already happened because the brain does not know the difference
between what is real and what is imagined. This is exactly what
Wayne Dyer has an interesting cell phone message that he
created. It goes something like this: You have reached Wayne
Dyer and I want to feel good. If your message is designed to do
anything other than make me feel good, you have reached the
wrong number. Pretty powerful, right? You can create these same
conditions. Surround yourself with positive people, positive
experiences and keep doing those daily affirmations. If you find
that youíre attracting something that you donít want, then step
back and look at your thoughts and ask ďWhy am I attracting
This particular lesson I want to focus on having a great
relationship with an ex-spouse or ex-significant other. Some of
you may be in this position or know someone who is, and Iím here
to tell you that it is possible!! We want to feel good, donít
A few years ago my ex-husband and I decided to end our
marriage and begin our lives as single people. We donít look at
our marriage as a failure, but rather as something that we
attracted because we had lessons to learn and we showed up for
each other to learn those valuable lessons. It took a few short
months for us to work through anger and hurt, but we have
transcended those negative emotions. I could truly not exist
with having anger towards him. That would keep me stuck and hold
things in my body and ďI want to feel good!Ē I have forgiven
him, and more importantly, I have forgiven myself. We have a
wonderful relationship as friends, and I am grateful to him for
the lessons he taught me. One of the lessons he taught me was to
stand up for myself. I became my mom as she experienced the same
lesson with my dad. In all of us we carry DNA patterns and Rapid
Eye Technology is wonderful for clearing these patterns.
I recently took my ex-husband out to dinner for his birthday
and people would be baffled by our conversation. We talked about
our dating experiences and did a lot of belly laughing as a
result. He has been dating for much longer than I have and so
had more to share. Nonetheless, we could truly be happy for each
other and want the best for each other as well.
If youíre intent is to feel good, but youíre still holding on
to anger, how can you accomplish that goal? Get out lesson #5
which focuses on forgiveness. Iím including a visualization
exercise from Louise Hay, You Can Heal Your Life. I extend
gratitude to Louise as she has helped me more than she can ever
Hereís the exercise. Have someone read this to you or put it
on tape and listen to it so you can close your eyes and truly
act as if they are in the room with you.
ďBegin to visualize yourself as a little child of five or
six. Look deeply into this little childís eyes. See the longing
that is there and realize that there is only one thing this
little child wants from you, and that is love. So reach out your
arms and embrace this child. Hold hi/her with love and
tenderness. Tell him/her how much you love him/her, how much you
care. Admire everything about this child and say that itís okay
to make mistakes while learning. After all, mistakes are Godís
way of saying choose a different path. Promise that you will
always be there no matter what. Now let this child get very
small, until he/she is just the size to fit into your heart. Put
him/her there so whenever you look down, you can see this little
face looking up at you, and you can give him/her lots of love.
Now visualize your mother as a little girl of four or five,
frightened and looking for love and not knowing where to find
it. Reach out your arms and hold this little girl and let her
know how much you love her, how much you care. Let her know she
can rely on you to always be there, no matter what. When she
quiets down and begins to feel safe, let her get very small,
just the size to fit into your heart. Put her there with your
own little child. Let them give each other lots of love.
Now imagine your father as a little boy of three or four,
frightened, crying and looking for love. See the tears rolling
down his face when he doesnít know where to turn. You have
become good at comforting frightened little children, so reach
out your arms and hold his trembling little body. Comfort him.
Let him feel how much you love him. Let him feel that you will
always be there for him.
When his tears are dry, and you feel the love and peace in
his little body, let him get very small, just the size to fit
into your heart. Put him there so those three little children
can give each other lots of love and you can love them all.Ē
Iím going to now add your ex-spouse or ex-significant other
to this visualization.
Now picture your ex-spouse or ex-significant other as a
little child of four or five, frightened and looking for love
and not knowing where to find it. He/she is so scared and cries
for someone to love him/her. You reach out your arms and in that
loving, comforting way hold him/her close to you. Let him/her
know you will always be there. Dry his/her tears and let him/her
get very small, just the size to fit into your heart. Put
him/her there so all of you children can be comforted and give
each other lots of love.
Back to the end of the Louise Hay visualization.
ďThere is so much love in your heart that you could heal the
entire planet. But just for now let us use this love to heal
you. Feel a warmth beginning to glow in your heart center, a
softness, a gentleness. Let this feeling begin to change the way
you think and talk about yourself.Ē
Remember, according to Marianne Williamson, ďAll behavior is
either a call or love or extension of love.Ē Extend love to
yourself and then to all those around you, including your exís.
It will be remarkable how you feel and then manifest wonderful
things as a result. Holding on to anger serves no purpose, other
than to create destructive things in your body like extra
weight. Remember, your intent is to feel good. When you feel
good, you feel God!!
You are the most incredible person and Iím so grateful that
youíre in my life. God has given me the gift of you!!
Love and hugs,